Vegan NoGo

So, I signed up for Vegan Mofo this year but for some reason my name didn't appear on the list.  and instead of feeling disappointment...i felt relief.  I was pretty excited and had a couple neat ideas but i also just started my newest online accounting class and it was leaving me feeling quite a bit anxious about getting all the work done PLUS blogging regularly PLUS cooking more homemade meals than i'm unfortunately used to.

so i still want to do it but i guess this is not the year, and that's okay with me.

but i did have a few things already in mind to post about so i still will.  first was eating vegan in michigan on our trip back out east to see the families.  i was quite surprised when my parents told me that they go to the downtown farmington farmer's market every weekend and that there is always a vegan food truck there!  specifically a vegan slider truck.  it's called Shimmy Shack and it's based out of South Lyon but apparently makes it out to the market every saturday.  my parents had already tried it and liked it so i thought i'd give it a go as well.  they have four sliders--the classic, the southwest, the falafel and the reuben-esque, which is a raw reuben.  i wanted something warm so the reuben was out, and i was nervous about the falafel because i have seriously high falafel standards.  so i got the southwest.  i believe it was pretty good but mostly i just tasted guacamole, which was fine.  they also do shakes.  my dad got banana and i got strawberry but you really couldn't tell the difference...instead of a soy or almond or even coconut ice cream base it was a banana base.  which is great for smoothies!  but not for shakes.  i had one sip of mine, detected banana, and gave it to my dad.  he was pretty excited to have two shakes.

my favorite part was the french fries.  we got sweet potato fries.  they were the usual run-of-the-mill SP fries but what made them awesome was the dips!  they had a self-serve dipping sauce bar and i filled up on all three varieties and it was pretty difficult to pick a favorite out of garlic sauce, shimmy sauce (a ketchup and mayo concoction) and curry mayo.  i guess if a gun was to my head i'd say the curry was the best.

so nice job, michigan, for stepping it up on the food cart AND the vegan front!

i got four out of five of my favorite michigan foods: buddy's pizza, superman ice cream, new york bagels and dunkin donuts.  we didn't have time to go to slow's BBQ in detroit to get their amazing vegetarian chicken BBQ sandwich and mac and cheese.  but now i have a new favorite: neehee's in plymouth.  meghan lives there and turned me on to this tiny and very popular spot that serves vegetarian indian street food.  incredible!!!  we shared four things and it was too much but so good:

samosa ragda, which was samosas covered in some sort of gravy with ramen noodles on top (i swear there are two samosas under there!).

paneer chili, which was paneer in a chili (duh) with a sweet (tamarind?) sauce.

chole bature,  asweet and savory chickpea curry served with two incredibly huge fried bature breads (my favorite dish)

chili mili pa,  a dosa filled with paneer (but also grilled peppers...no thanks)

i also went to the blue nile with patty, my favorite ethiopian place ever.  when we got there, the charming young waiter came to our table and asked if we were hungry.  when we answered "famished," he asked if we liked meat or veggies (meat for patty, veggies for me) and then said he'd be right back.  he showed up with a sample of everything.  it was amazing.  so delicious.  we stuffed ourselves silly.  i've been to quite a few places in california but blue nile is still my first and best true love.

nice job metro detroit, on stepping it up in the veggie area!!!

Post Vacation First Week of School Jet Lag Fun

We got back from Michigan Monday night.  The plane ride was a disaster, but luckily there were a ton of small children on our flight so we weren't the only row screeching and kicking and bumping up and down the aisles.  We even saw an old high school friend, Steve, and his wife and two sons, also coming back from visiting family in Michigan.

Tuesday morning.  4:30am.  Roman wakes up and comes into our room.  "I want to watch TV" he says in a Homer Simpson non-whisper.  I pick him up and put him in our bed, on top of Henry, the full-length body pillow that sleeps between Mike and me so I don't wake up in so much back pain I have to call in sick.  He sits still for about 10 minutes, just long enough for me to fall asleep, and then starts thrashing around.  Not a good idea.  Mike anytime between 1-10am can be surprisingly and totally evil.  He picks Roman up roughly, so he starts screaming, and heads for the kids' room.  Now both kids are screaming.  They quiet down a bit, just long enough for me to fall asleep, before Mike huffs back into our bedroom, lays down for a split second, then says, "GODDAMN IT" and grabs his pillow and blanket and huffs away.  It's nice and quiet, just long enough for me to fall asleep, and then Roman comes back into the bedroom.  Ok.  I figure that's all the sleep I'm getting.  I put on Phinneas and Ferb in the living room and get Oliver (Mike went back to lay down in or bed).  He says "poo poo Mommy!" when I pick him up, apparently because he had stuck his hand into the back of his diaper.  Now his entire left hand and my pajama top are covered in brown.  I put him in the shower with me and scrub furiously while he screams like I am drowning him.  Finally we get out and I am brushing my teeth.  He insists he needs to brush his as well, but drops the brush, so I lean down and straighten up and WHACK my head into the corner of the glass medicine cabinet.  It hurts so bad I start crying and Oliver looks at me and then starts laughing.

The only thing I could do was pick him up, put him outside the room, and lock the bathroom door and sit down and cry for a minute.  I heard Mike come get him shortly afterwards.  The rest of the day proceeds without too many events except that I lose my jacket in the Bart parking lot.  Luckily when I get back to our station I ask at the lost and found and some kind soul has turned it in.

Anyway, the trip itself was great, except for the plane ride.  The kids were ok, I guess, and nobody died so that is a plus.  But Roman was having crying fits and Oliver was just plain loud and I had a sort of panic attack or claustrophobic episode or something that would have spun out of control until I realized WTF would Mike do with two kids and a useless wife on a 4 hour flight?

It was great to see my parents, Mike's parents, all of our remaining grandmothers and a bunch of cousins and aunts and uncles.  And Roman and Oliver got to play with their cousins Jon and Mina, which they loved (although honestly Mina was probably the most excited of the bunch).  My favorite part was hanging out with my best friend Patty--once at her house one evening after the kids were asleep, watching her pack lunches; once when the two of us went out to ethiopian and ice cream one childless friday night; and once at her enormous ranch house with both of our families plus parents, when we enjoyed a late lunch, playing on the new swing set and an honest-to-god John Deere tractor ride that was the hit of the trip.  That's more times than I usually get to hang out with Patty in a year.  Plus she's coming out to Palo Alto for work next month and I am going to try to coordinate to have dinner with her that evening.

One crazy afternoon at Grandma Kwapisz's apartment.

A bit more relaxed at Grandma Janowski's house that evening.

Now we're all back to routine, except my second accounting class started this week so I'm reading a boring textbook after work every night instead of watching Call the Midwife or Orange is the New Black.  So the house of course is a disaster.  I'm gearing up for Vegan MoFo next month but I am also kind of panicking.  I haven't blogged monthly for years, much less 5 times a week, which is my goal.  Hell, I'd be happy with 3 times that include photos.  I also haven't cooked anything worthwhile for at least a month so I'm excited about getting back to that as well.  I've saved up a few great vegan things I ate in Michigan and have been putting aside some interesting-sounding tea recipes for my Tea for Tuesday posts.

Baby mama

It's apparently national breastfeeding week!  My mothering website keeps tweeting about it every ten minutes.  I thought I'd share my thoughts about nursing my two sons since it's probably something I'm never going to do again.

i knew i would breastfeed my kids way before they were born.  i knew that a few of my friends who had already had kids either decided not to breastfeed or were unable to physically.  i knew it was supposed to be so difficult and painful and horrible but overall worth it to provide your child with the best nutrition available.  i thought when my son was born i would have them lay him on my chest and before his eyes were even fully open he would root around and find a nipple and latch on.

unfortunately my kids didn't come out quite the way i planned.  i still consider roman's birth a "natural" birth, in that i had no drugs and he came out vaginally.  however, he was honestly pulled out via "vacuum" by the obstetrician.  he was a big kid, almost 9 pounds, and as hard as i pushed i just couldn't do it all on my own.  as a result they wanted to keep him in the NICU for the next 36 hours, so i wasn't able to breastfeed him at first.  luckily kaiser knew i had specified that i wanted to exclusively breastfeed (they also reminded me of my wish for a natural birth when i first arrived in labor and was wavering on being medicated and i'm so glad they did) so they brought in an enormous hospital grade breast pump and had me pump some milk so they could dropper-feed roman.  i did eventually get to nurse him about 24 hours after his birth.  the nurses showed me the different holds (i had already learned them in the breastfeeding class when i was pregnant but it's not quite the same as with a doll) and the "hamburger grip."  overall it seemed pretty simple.  he was hungry and i was so happy to have the pressure relieved from my enormous breasts!

roman was a great eater and i had a ton of milk so it worked out well.  i nursed him all over town.  it was so convenient to wake up in the middle of the night and just feed him, although at first i was so concerned and wanted to be certain that he got an even amount of time on each breast, for a long enough period, so i had a clock nearby to make sure he got 15 minutes on each side while i read a book in the dim light of the "nursery."  sometimes i checked the internet or played with my phone.  understandably, i was quite tired and probably a bit cranky (i do remember yelling at mike irrationally) from these half-hour jaunts every 2 hours.

Nursing Roman during his first of many Yosemite camping trips.

i knew i didn't want roman to eat formula.  i am so glad formula was invented for those kids who are not able to be breastfed.  but i think it is disgusting stuff.  it's not even real food!  it's totally synthetic and creeps me out.  but i also worked full time, so that left me THE PUMP.  the pump and i spent so much time together that year.  at first it was kind of embarrassing and inconvenient having to excuse myself 3 times a day and spend 20 minutes in the HVM pharmacy being a giant cow.  but eventually it just became part of the routine and i did get a lot of good reading done (specifically i remember jodi picoult and jonathan strange and mr. norrell).  only twice people walked in on me--once was erika and once Dr. Bowman, but it wasn't that bad since my back was turned to the doorway.

i quit pumping almost exactly on roman's birthday.  i couldn't wait to be done pumping.  about a month before that though, i suddenly fell behind.  i wasn't getting quite as much milk when i pumped, and he was eating more than ever.  that last month i got so close to running out that i even bought a can of organic formula from rainbow grocery.  i felt like a failure and that was 11 months into my baby's life...i can't imagine how heartbreaking it must be to want to nurse your child in the beginning but not be able to for whatever reason.  luckily i never had to open that can and by the time i quit pumping roman was able to drink "regular" milk just fine.  however i continued to nurse him in the morning, before bed and before nap until he was just about 20 months old.  we loved our nursing time together, cuddling and talking and he would hold on to a piece of my hair and it was so sweet.  however by that time i was 5 months pregnant with his brother.  i was tired and uncomfortable, and roman was on the go all the time.  it was definitely a mutual decision to stop about the middle of july.  neither one of us missed it.

when oliver was born, it also didn't go the way i had imagined.  he was a c-section baby, and that was only after 2 hours of pushing and lots of drugs.  so much for a natural birth.  luckily even though i was in bad shape after the surgery, he was just fine!  the nurses gave him to me within a few hours of his birth and i got to nurse him, although at first it didn't seem like he was latching on very well.  plus he was only feeding for a few minutes at a time, but doing it every 15 minutes or so.  around the clock.  the lactation specialist came by and wanted to see our latch. "that looks like the latch of a 20-month old, not a newborn," she said, and i again learned all the holds and the "hamburger grip."  but it wasn't doing much good.  that kid was hungry but he also seemed really lazy (maybe from all the drugs coursing through my system?).  he gained enough weight back that we could leave but when we went for his one-day checkup the doctor suggested we look into "tongue tied syndrome" and decide if we wanted to have his tongue clipped.  we didn't, and he ended up learning how to latch on just fine, although he always was a very sloppy eater and it wasn't quite as easy with him as it was with roman (i'd later come to realize that nothing was as easy with oliver was it was with roman).

with the new baby, the pump came back.  this time i was prepared.  i always had at least a month's supply ahead of time in bottles in the freezer.  every time we opened the door, bottles of breast milk jumped out.  but i didn't want to run the risk of having to buy another can of formula (i eventually did return that original can i had bought for roman).  i again pumped until he was almost 1 year old, and i still had about 3 weeks of milk left in the freezer for him.

A satisfied newborn baby Oliver.  Bigger than some 3-month olds!

oliver loved nursing in the morning.  he was so sleepy and warm and soft and cuddly.  at night, however, by the time he was 18 months old he was distracted and it took forever for him to latch on and get down to business.  eventually i stopped nursing him at night.  i had mike put him down for the evening and he was upset for a few days but got over it quickly.  i still nursed him in the mornings and that was a sweet bonding time for us.  i decided to keep nursing him until 20 months, just like his brother, and then i just started distracting him in the morning until nursing was no longer part of our routine.  it's been maybe 6 weeks since then and he still likes to lay his hand on my breast when he is sleepy or needs comforting, and the other day i thought he was trying to nurse and roman did too ("baby wants to drink from your belly!") but i just held him and rocked him and tried not to feel guilty.

so breastfeeding for me was wonderful.  hardly ever painful, a little bit uncomfortable, but mostly a beautiful wonderful experience for me and my children.  i guess we were lucky.  but i know if it hadn't been so easy i would have tried and tried to make it work.  is that a good thing or a bad thing?  neither, i guess, just my personality and my beliefs.

i do know that breast pump can go straight to hell.  i appreciate getting it as a gift from my friend allison.  i appreciate that it has seen my two boys through their infancy and helped grow them into nice chubby toddlers.  now it's probably over 5 years old and i need to donate it somewhere, but secretly sometimes i think about taking a baseball bat to it in the backyard, office space printer style.

Back in Black

My back sucks.  All I want to do about it all day is whine.  I have a pretty high tolerance for pain, I'd say.  I had one natural birth and attempted to have a second one until the obstetrician realized my baby was just too damn big to be born that way, so I know a little bit about pain.  Birth pain is not sudden and shocking, like "oh man, i just broke my arm."  Although I also have broken my collarbone when I was seven, and it was very painful as well.  So much so that I still remember how it felt almost 30 years later.  But those things mend.  Eventually.  My C-section was painful but mostly it was just scary.  i couldn't even look at the scar or touch it for a week or two because it was just...too strange.  it still feels weird and gross even now and i hate for anyone to touch it.   But it's not painful anymore.

My back is painful every day.  it's not the same pain every day.  it's not even always in the same place every day.  i don't know when it's going to hurt, and when it won't.  i take alleve every single day, twice a day, and it doesn't really do that much.  i'm scared to do things like jump off the bus onto the curb.  i move like an old lady.  sometimes when i'm sitting on our really crappy couch i can't get up and mike has to pull me.  i've had an MRI.  i've had acupuncture.  i'm still doing physical therapy, which is the one thing that seems to work but i have to do it constantly and it is sooooo slow even if I do.

i feel like it's not fair that i have to be in pain all the time.  but i also feel like complaining about it is incredibly selfish and stupid.  some people are in serious pain and discomfort every single minute of the day.  some people live on the streets.  some people have lost someone they love.  some people are being denied basic human rights.  but it is something i think about every day, most of the day.  it affects everything i do or want to do.  it is affecting my ability to get in shape and lose the extra 40 pounds that makes people ask me when i'm due, which in turn makes me depressed and even less apt to get in shape.  which makes me feel weak-willed and even more depressed.  i know it wasn't always like this, but i can't remember what it was like to not be afraid of hurting when i moved.

perfect situation

Mike and I saw Weezer last night at the America's Cup Pavilion.  It was really surreal to take the 1 downtown, where I usually get on Bart, and instead keep walking to the ferry building, and then keep walking up Embarcadero and suddenly to hear a band playing really loudly.  I'm not a huge fan of the venue--it seemed too shoddy and temporary.  The bathrooms were actually three huge rows of portable toilets!  But it was pretty cool to see one of my favorite bands of all time right on the bay like that.  It was an odd show. I had a wonderful time and they played a really great mix of a bunch of songs, but the drummer was absent (so far I have no idea why) and the mood was kind of strange.  Rivers, as always, was adorable and nerdy.  We were "Scott side" which was cool--he is my second favorite Weezer band member.  It was foggy and cold but we were standing on the grass and dancing so it wasn't too cold (although thank god Mike brought my camping fleece from home).

A coworker saw this photo in my cube and asked if he was my husband.  

It's interesting being on the other side of babysitting.  Mike said Ashlee was probably sleeping on our couch, and I said that I always fell asleep when I was babysitting and I always felt SO BAD about it, like why were they paying me money to watch their HBO and doze on their couch?  Especially when they had to wake me up when they came home.  That is embarrassing.  But I honestly didn't mind coming home and finding Ashlee just waking up, and now that I think about it, I'm sure the people I babysat for didn't mind either.  It was probably just nice to actually leave the house together and do something with your husband and only be in charge of your own eating and bathroom activity for the evening.  But Jesus H. Christ is it expensive.

Today I'm super tired.  I got a soy latte and croissant from Starbucks.  I feel so normal.  Usually I'd just be fine with my nectarine from home and a cup of fancy tea from my desk drawer.

Next week we see Phish.  I can't believe it--my two favorite bands within 10 days of each other!  Plus Sunday is our anniversary so we're going out alone again to Homeroom.  Quite a week for our babysitter!

Tiny bubbles

I was googling Tea for Boba Fett and incredibly had missed the connection between Boba Fett and boba tea.  Especially odd since I get Tea Magazine and this last issue was all about bubble tea.  Ugh.  My brain totally poured out my ear with my second kid.

Anyway, this came up and I thought it was cute:

Sluurrrrp.

A long way from livejournal

Is this thing on?

Things are a lot different since the last time I blogged.